of New Year's Eve 2006, Nina & Steve tied the knot,
and Nina's own dream came true!!! Her experience proves
that the romance of a lifetime can be yours! It can happen
to you too! And Nina can help! Here's Nina's story, in her
it only took me 43 years and roughly too many dates to even
count to find my "Mr. Right", and he is my prince
charming in every way. Well, if I had the option, I would
not trade the journey in for any amount of love or money.
Waiting turned out to be the best thing to ever happen to
me romantically. My fiancé says that all the other
guys I dated were just place-holders until we could find
each other. I have been engaged three times and have probably
been on more than a few internet dates, stemming from sites
such as Houston Connect, Matchmaker, Yahoo personals, JDate,
Craigslist, Backpage.com and Plenty of Fish.com.
is a numbers game. You have to meet a lot of people before
you can find the right match, I tell people. Yet, it is
a very frustrating journey of ups and downs. I talk to people
all day long who think that it's never going to happen --
they're never going to fall in love. So they give up, and
stay home watching the Daily Show. I tell people, "If
you think you won't find love -- you won't." There
was many a time I went on a date and thought, "I just
can't do this anymore."
I adopted my baby girl Fayth, most of my friends said, "That's
it for you, Nina. Nobody wants to date a 40-something woman
with a baby!" Well, I thought it made me a better package
and so does my husband-to-be!!
has an opinion and a story they tell themselves, regarding
dating. Now that I am a full-time matchmaker, I am even
more amazed by the stories I hear from people that are fed
up with what they have been doing, because it's just not
getting them what they want. I get feedback from the people
I fix up, and sometimes it just amazes me how two people
can misunderstand a situation and see things so completely
differently. I am looking at the same situation as the two
of them are, and I am seeing it yet a third way.
the love of your life is probably the hardest task there
is, much harder than finding your life's work. At least
you went to school for that or had some formal training.
Who showed you how to date, or gave you a clue on what road
to travel to meet that other half that you are so looking
forward to spending your life with?
are tons of self-help books out there… tons of love
coaches, tons of seminars, so many it can make your head
spin round and round. What's a single person to do in Houston,
me briefly share the story of how I found the man I have
been waiting for my whole life. because it is truly a story
of destiny and hope -- and it really reminds me that everything
happens for a reason. No matter how many failed attempts
you have had, you can never give up hope, that your dreams
will come true and your true love will come into your life.
Friedman the matchmaker has always been willing to try almost
anything once. So some of my friends told me that it was
important for me to have a page on Myspace so that I could
let people know about my matchmaking business. At first
I resisted, WHY? but finally I created the Myspace page.
Late in August, I received an email from a man who said
he was on vacation, and he was checking out some music on
Myspace. He ran across my page, and it led him to yentagirl.com.
This is what his message said:
I read the relationships web page at your website this
) I am sitting by a lake in the middle of Minnesota, with
my dog. (It is completely rustic, except that the place
has wireless access. Different times all jumbled together.)
Anyway, I would like to thank you for putting that on
the web. It gives me a new focus. A couple of more days
here, and then I am back to Houston." --Steve
of course, I was tickled to receive such a nice compliment,
and I responded thanking him and asking him to phone me
when he returned from vacation. I certainly wanted to meet
the man that took the time to pay me such a sweet compliment.
He, of course, thought I was trying to solicit him for my
matchmaking business, so he didn't call initially.
or so later, I placed an ad on http://www.craigslist.org/
to find matches for some of my clients. A nice man emailed
me, and said that he would love to meet someone for casual
dating i.e. dinners, movies, museums etc. He said that he
wasn't looking for love just yet as he hadn't really been
too lucky in that department. Then he added but who knows
how I will feel next month. Instantly, I knew this was a
man with a sense of humor and optimism, and I knew that
I had to know him. He told me he was 49, gainfully employed,
and he sent a picture so I knew he was attractive. Nina
the matchmaker is always looking for quality men in their
late 40's and 50's, because I have so many quality women
that I am seeking matches for in that age range. I was excited
about this man.
with my picture and a bit about my services, and I asked
for a meeting. He responded that he didn't need a "Matchmaker"
but he thought I had a beautiful smile, and he would really
like to meet me. We chatted a few times and arranged a dinner
date. We made a second date to see each other later that
week. But the next day, he called and said he couldn't wait
-- he wanted to see me that night. We have been together
every day since!
October 11, 2006 he proposed, and I said YES!! How strange
is it that he found me on Myspace and then on Craigslist,
and he had no idea that I was the same person! Of course,
when he met me, he knew that I was the matchmaker from the
website he had read, but he didn't let on to me that he
had been the one to send me that compliment. If this is
not a case of putting yourself out there, I don't know what
so glad that I didn't listen to my friends -- and didn't
settle for Mr. Okay -- and instead, held out for the right
man. I am so glad that I never gave up my optimism, never
settled, and never believed that I had missed the love boat!!
There is someone out there for everyone. You have to be
willing to take risks, do things that are uncomfortable,
try new avenues, be optimistic and open to new ideas.